How to Become a People Person – Part 3
This nice lady came with us on holiday recently. She seemed to have a great general knowledge and despite the age gap, I found it so easy, in fact, fun to converse with her.
At one of our dinners my friend and I were talking about something which, despite her impressive general knowledge, we knew she knows nothing about. Irrespective, she agreed with us assertively. It was then that it struck me that she was using it as a conversational tactic.
Now I’m not saying we should just agree all the time. It’s good to also show that you’re learning something instead of always acting like you already knew what the person was talking about. Some people just always agree with you by saying, “that’s right,” even when they don’t know anything about the topic. In those cases it’s appropriate to say, “oh really?”. It’s annoying when someone is a ‘Ja broer’.
But the point is, this lady came across as extremely personable because when one of us made a statement, she would confidently and assertively affirm what we had said, making whoever made the comment look and feel like the man.
So instead of just hmm’ing in agreement, get some assertive agreement statements, like, “yes, that’s 100% right,” or, “when you’re right you’re right!” or one of my favorites, just say “FACT!”
It makes people feel good and you’ll be the source, and you know what happens when you’re the source of one or two of their primary human needs don’t you? On a brain chemistry level, you will literally become ADDICTIVE!